As I have been reading through all of the posts in the 14 Days of Busy Mamas Dating Their Husbands series, one theme that seems consistent is just how busy our lives are. And it is no wonder, with jobs and kids and soccer games and ballet practice and bathroom remodels, it's hard for parents to find time for each other.
But it is important.
My husband is a paramedic. He is gone for 24, 36, and even 48 hours at a time. He also has a second job teaching at the local community college. I work full time at the high school and sometimes we feel like two ships passing in the night. I head out the door in the morning, kids in tow just as he is on his way home from work. I come home in the evening and he is heading back out to teach and evening class.
To some this may not seem like a recipe for success, and there are some nights when I am dealing with bed time and clean up that I do wish I had a second pair of hands to help, but what we lack in time, we make up for with love and commitment.
We are both committed to giving each child our personal attention through trips to the park, cuddles at bed time, and one on one attention.
We are committed to each other and to making each other a priority. This is important because our children need to see the love and respect we have for one another because they will base their future relationships on that model.
Tips for dating your busy spouse...
Don't get hung up on spontaneity.
Before we had kids, dating was spontaneous and wild. I think every couple goes through a bit of a mourning process when you realize that you have to schedule and plan in advance for time alone. Don't fight it, embrace it. Look at your schedules, figure out when you are both going to be free. I recommend Google calender. My husband and I both post our schedules to Google calender and then we can look up when the other is free on our smart phones. Don't be afraid to schedule time for a date or even something a little more sexy. It's okay!
Don't let go of spontaneity.
Have private jokes.
When you have jokes, traditions, places, songs and experiences that are just YOURS together, it makes every day more fun. A couple I know has a tradition of playing practical jokes on each other. Being able to laugh at silliness in the face of stress of loneliness will keep relationships strong.
Remember...love is a verb.
A verb is an action word. It is not something that just happens. It is something you actively do. Once you stop doing it, it can go away. So don't stop.
This post is part of a series called 14 days of Busy Mamas Dating Their Husbands. Check out all the other bloggers who have contributed to this series so far and come back between now and February 14th to see what other busy moms are doing. These are the amazing bloggers who are participating.
My Nearest And Dearest, Pleasantest Thing, Play Dr Mom, Glittering Muffins, Mama Miss, Life At The Zoo, Toddling Into Madness, Sense of Wonder, Educators Spin on It, Little Artists, Home Learning Journey, Frogs And Snails and Puppy dog Tails, Pragmatic Mom, The Good Long Road, Mamas Like Me, Kids Stuff World , Toddler Approved and Adventures in Mommydom.
Have you been dating your spouse? Link up below or tell me all about in the comment section. How do you balance work and family life and still maintain romance?